Bedtime as a Parent
When it comes to bedtime, let’s be honest—there are two versions of us. The version they think goes to bed in a haze of candlelight, wearing cute lingerie, radiating effortless allure. And then there’s reality: oversized mom PJs, hair in a bun, and a red-light therapy mask that makes us look like we’re training for a sci-fi movie. A book in our hands (or maybe Netflix, let’s not kid ourselves) and the remainder of our dinner that we never did get to finish…
Does the first version exist? Absolutely. But she’s a limited-edition model, requiring:
1. A 10-step skincare routine (because self-care is sacred).
2. Three uninterrupted nights of sleep (a rare and magical phenomenon).
3. At least one evening of peace, quiet, and maybe a glass of wine.
Until then, the everyday version is just as worthy—comfortable, content, and thriving in the chaos of parenthood and relationships.
Why the Reality is Better Than the Expectation
When I think about the “bedtime me” that shows up most nights, I realize she’s a testament to something greater than romance or aesthetics. She’s the warrior who made it through another day of:
• Saying “no” 167 before 8 PM.
• Negotiating snack requests like a seasoned diplomat.
• Navigating work, parenting, sports, being a personal Uber driver to my kids, and life without completely losing my cool.
And as much as I want to show up as that well slept goddess we all desire to be, this version of me is a reflection of resilience, love, and the priorities that truly matter.
Parenting + Relationships: It’s All About Balance
I’ll be honest—I can’t speak to this topic from the perspective of someone who’s had a partner by their side the whole time. I’ve been a single mom for most of my journey, so my focus has always been on balancing parenting and my own personal growth. But I do understand how important it is to prioritize your husband, boyfriend, or partner in a relationship. It’s easy to let the daily grind of parenting take over and get a little too comfortable in the “reality” part of the expectation versus reality equation.
While love should be unconditional, keeping the connection alive means making an effort—whether that’s planning a date night, putting down your phone for a real conversation, or even just swapping the mom PJs for something cute every now and then.
Balance doesn’t mean perfection; it means showing up for each other, even in the middle of the chaos.
So, here’s my advice to anyone balancing it all: embrace the in-between. Take the pressure off trying to “be” anything other than what you are right now. And know that, yes, the flirty version of you will show up when the stars align. But until then? The superhero in mom PJs with a face mask on is just as powerful.
What’s Your Bedtime Reality?
I’d love to hear how bedtime looks for you—are you Team Cozy Chaos or Team Glam? Share your stories in the comments below, and let’s keep this conversation going. Because at the end of the day, we’re all just figuring it out together.
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